Dear Seasoned Woman, I need you. There are times I pretend I know it all. I produce a show for my friends, family, and church members that I have it all together. I want them to think I know exactly what I am doing as a wife, mother, homemaker, friend, daughter, and believer. Sometimes I even scoff at advice.
Dear Seasoned Woman, the truth is I actually don’t know it all. I can gain some knowledge through Bible study and reading solid books, but there is a special kind of wisdom that comes with experience I can never fake. You have the benefit of time and experience spent reading the Bible, hearing it preached, loving your husband, raising your children, serving your friends, maintaining your home, and discerning decisions. You have something I can’t force by listening to podcasts or following Instagram accounts. You have years of witnessing the faithfulness, goodness, and grace of God. I need your wisdom applied to my life. I can read books and blog posts, but they don’t know my personal story. I need you, seasoned woman, to listen to my stories and teach me how to apply the wisdom you won through your own experiences.
Dear Seasoned Woman, it’s taken me a while to know that I need you. I’ve listened to the advice of my peers because they “know what I’m going through.” But I am realizing that to only take the advice of those my age is foolishness. My young friends have some good suggestions, but you have something we can only gain as we grow older. I no longer despise your wisdom but long for it.
Dear Seasoned Woman, Titus 2:3–5 confirms my need for you:
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.